It’s okay to admit it — most of us give ourselves some negative self-talk now and then. You might not even notice when you make a mistake and mumble, “I’m so stupid,” under your breath. You might even be inclined to believe it when you’re in a particularly low place.
We all have moments where we feel small, silly, and even unworthy. But this becomes a problem when thoughts of inferiority or unworthiness grow constant and intrusive. Just like exposing yourself to positivity can help you be happier and more confident, constant negativity can harm your self-image and even affect your performance and enjoyment in your daily life.
You are worthy, and you as an individual have something special to offer in this world. Just like it isn’t acceptable for someone in your life to put you down and call you names, it’s no more acceptable for you to do the same to yourself. It can be a challenge to rewire your brain and get rid of that internalized negativity, but it is possible. Here are some ideas to consider:
You’re Not Helpless
Social media connects us more than ever before, but it also exposes us to all the world’s imperfections. Sometimes it’s easy to become overwhelmed by problems in the world that seem outside our individual control. You have great capacity for love and kindness, two things you can use to make the world a little bit better, simply within your daily life. You don’t have to be rich or develop superpowers to have an impact. Remember, kindness can be contagious.
Compare Yourself Only to Yourself
You’re a unique human being with a soul, meaning you weren’t born quite like anyone else. Your capabilities are not comparable to those of the people around you. Instead of focusing on your weaknesses (which everyone has) focus instead on your strengths so you can be the best you can be.
Celebrate Your Victories
It doesn’t matter how small. You got up the courage to talk to someone new, you paid a bill, you got yourself out of bed without having to hit the “snooze” button. At the end of the day, try to reflect on where you succeeded rather than zooming in on any shortcomings. That way, you can fall asleep more satisfied at the end of your day.
Catch Yourself In The Act
If you ever hear that little voice in your head sending you negative or hurtful messages, counter it. Tell yourself, “I am worthy,” “I am smart,” and “I can do this.” Say it, even if you don’t believe it. If you say it enough, you might believe it one day.
These are just a few tips that can help you get started breaking the habit of negative self-talk. If you can learn to accept yourself as you are, you can live a happier and healthier life from day to day. It’s not selfish—remember that. You deserve to love yourself.